When you spend time every day wondering what your life would have been if you had only changed one little thing, then there are 2 little things you can do:
1) Befriend a Time Lord or invent/steal a time machine to go back and tweak things
2) Write it OUT!
(Ok, Maybe you could also move on and if its that important to you try to change things now, but that’s not as fun)
Common wonderments among my family and friends are things like, “What would have happened if we had/hadn’t moved at that point?” “What if I had said yes/no to that job/date/car/etc.” and “What if I had followed through on that?”
That’s the kicker…What IF I had followed through. So here is the challenge to you, and to myself: FOLLOW THROUGH! Turn in the manuscript, apply for the scary awesome job, ask that guy out, buy the ticket. Whatever it is that you will regret letting slip away, or do regret letting slip away, go take care of it! And then, whenever you have a moment or two (whether it be at the beginning, middle, or end of the follow through) WRITE IT OUT! Tell the world, tell your friends, or lock it away, but write out how you feel now. That’s a way to birth great stories, both fiction and non, out of your own background. Or just to tell your family what you did in your life.
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Have a Blessed and Wonderful Weekend!
Normally I would be asking you what you’re devouring from the book shelf this week…and I am still very interested in that…but I just spent the better part my afternoon reading the back of my eyelids while the dentist and his assistant did whatever it is they do and performed my first ever root canal, complete with a sound track of early/mid 90s country music. Delish
The combo gas and shots did a great job of numbing me out and the discomfort was minimal. Of course, that is starting to be a different story but for the most part it hasn’t done too much damage to me.
So the question I have for you today is this: what is something that has really surprised or startled you recently? Hopefully something good that really blindsided you.
I hope there is more than 1 thing and I can’t wait to see what your responses are!
A few months ago I wrote a blog post about my addiction to colored pens. While the post was all in good fun, the truth is that I am addicted to using colored pens. Whether it stems from my mild OCD or is a coping mechanism that escalated along with overeating after I quit smoking, I still have at least fifty multi-hued ink pens (all fine or medium tipped!) waiting for me to use them. Along with the set of patiently waiting notebooks and large pile of yarn, these pens are a silent testament to my inner self.
You may think, “what’s the big deal about paper, pens, and yarn?” You’re right, but what if it was still tobacco, or what if my occasional beer piled up like my yarn? Addictive Personality Disorder is not diagnosed as often as alcoholism or drug addiction, but many of the people who try to clean up their lives and move away from harmful addictions turn around and fill that void with the ceremony of a ‘not-so-harmful’ addiction. Smokers who quit and overeat, drug addicts who clean up and begin pouring their time into exercise, and even overeaters who suddenly become addicted to counting calories all exhibit signs of APD. There are even some who become addicted to certain emotions!
Some common traits of Addictive Personality Disorder Include:
- Impulsive behavior or lack of impulse control
- Being prone to seek out excitement
- The feeling of being alienated from society
- A lack of patience and/or being easily frustrated
- Low self-esteem, though often times popular
- Rebellious behavior against authorities, rules, laws, etc. (includes, lying, stealing, breaking laws, etc. May also include an addiction to getting tattoos/piercings when family/friends find those things ‘taboo’)
- Sensitivity to stress
- An all or nothing mentality
- A lack of intimacy or ability to have healthy relationships
While each individual is different, thus making each case of addiction different, these tell-tale signs might help you to see a pattern of addiction in yourself or those around you. If you find that to be the case, there are several things that can help you and others handle addictions.
- First, admit that there is a problem.
- Once you have admitted the problem, seek help in the form of counseling or even close friends (therapy is recommended)
- Learn ways to cope with stress that allow you remain calm and without need of those stress relieving addictions.
- Provide pep talks and personal mantras for yourself. I.e. “I CAN, I AM, I WILL, I DO.” Or even, “I am smart, I am wise, I am healthy, etc.”
- Diet and Exercise – while these can help refocus your mind and detox your body while keeping you grounded in the ‘present moment’ (it is crucial to stop worrying over the past and stressing out over the future – these are key triggers for many addicts) they can also become the new focus of addictions. Keep this in mind and be very strict on the types and amounts of diet/exercise that you indulge in. The goal is to be healthy.
- Cold water, deep breathing, yoga, – helps you to calm down, resets/calms the nervous system and emotions.
One of the main things to remember is to keep away from the harmful/previous addiction and surround yourself with a good support group. You are not in this alone, you are not just an addict, and you CAN overcome these trials and issues.
Sources and Other Reading:
Just a small portion of my ‘stash’
Social Anxiety and the Holidays
A new article I’ve published on Yahoo! Voices dealing with 5 ways to handle social anxiety during holidays throughout the year. I hope this helps someone either deal with their own anxieties or understand someone else’s.
Heartburn Healers at Home
I’ve just had an article published via the Yahoo! Contributors Network that I am pretty proud of. Though most of us know a little bit about the ‘old remedies’ to heartburn (you know…the one’s that don’t involve pills that come in little purple packages or pink bottles) the remedies I researched and wrote up in this article are, for the most part, ones that I had not heard of before.
For the record, they work. I actually mixed up three of them in a hot tea last week and cured the heartburn of myself, my mother, and my father…all very different sufferers who don’t always get the same outcome from quickly dissolving tablets! (hot mint tea…spearmint…with a 1/2 teaspoon of Apple Cider Vinegar and a teaspoon or more depending on tastes needs of Organic Honey.)
If you use any of the suggested remedies, or have some I didn’t list, let me know! I would love to hear your experiences and ideas with this.